ok i found the prioblem and cure,explorer.exe is a process and it obviously cant be deleted from windows,you can turn it off yes but this will also turn the things off which explorer.exe runs ie:desktop icons,explorer.exe although a legit windows system process it is also a trojan,anytime your explorer.exe runs anythin over 25.000k this is a damn good sign that your explorer.exe is infected,
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